I have had this ongoing love/hate relationship with social media for many years now. And to be honest, although I have dreamed of being rid of it forever, I have felt so addicted to social media that my many attempts to get off only proved that I was, in fact, VERY ADDICTED.
Now, I don't know about you but I absolutely LOATHE being attached and addicted to ANYTHING. And this is pretty ironic because I would say have one of the most addictive personalities I have ever come across. For instance, for almost two decades, I was so addicted to alcohol and food that even though the consequences of my mass consumption almost resulted in death, I still could not stop in my own power. Other than trying alcohol on my lips at the tail end of 2019 as an experiment to see if I could drink again, thankfully, and not because I have this crazy will power, I have been stayed away from alcohol for 14 years now. (During this experiment, I drank one glass of wine three days in a row and quickly realized I could go down a BAD PATH if I kept it up so I stopped, have not thought about alcohol since and will never touch it again as I STILL see no reason to drink.)
The relief and peace I felt when I was finally unshackled from the bondage of my addictions was so profound that it begged me to finally ask the following questions about my social media addiction...
So after going back and forth for YEARS, here are some the reasons I got off social media...
1. I wanted to find out what the core reason was I was reaching for my phone to check "likes" and "comments" so I could find out what it was my soul was REALLY searching for.
2. I watched this video and it ABSOLUTELY BROKE my heart: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMb0wqTqE_4
3. I wholeheartedly believe SOCIAL media is NOT SOCIAL and is actually hurting our world and humanity.
4. I wanted to PROVE I could live completely abundantly and happily without it.
5. I wanted to prove I could be EVEN MORE successful in business without HAVING to have social media accounts.
6. I wanted to make sure my life was set up in such a way that, in the event the internet crashed, I would be COMPLETELY fine and essentially unaffected in all areas of my life.
7. My arm, thumb and hand were hurting from holding my phone up to record stories and my neck and back hurt from looking down at my phone so much.
8. I was scrolling on social media WHILE I was driving and I knew this was dangerous to myself and others yet I felt I could not stop.
9. I kept checking my x-boyfriend's social media which only made me feel horrible afterward.
10. I was tired of looking externally to find my worth and for validation.
11. It is a big time suck.
12. The screen would hurt my eyes and I knew this was not good for me.
13. I didn't like how it felt when men I don't know or men I had previously dated followed me and watched my stories, especially when they are married and it just felt weird and inorganic.
Here's what I got in the place of social media:
1. Instead of looking at someone's Facebook page or Insta Stories, I called them.
2. Instead of spending time posting what I saw, I just observed where I was and was completely there to feel it and BE with it.
3. Instead of being influenced by what others were doing with their lives, I started living my own.
4. Instant relief when I hit the DELETE button, like a weight had been lifted off my shoulder and mind.
5. I have been forced, in a sense, to find what I am looking externally within.
6. I focus more on what is around me and what I actually have rather than what I don't have.
7. My life is more simple.
8. I felt less insecure because I was not comparing my life to others.
9. The mind chatter and over stimulation from taking in so much input online stopped.
This is just a few examples as I do plan to come back to this blog post periodically to add more of the many blessings I have gotten by unplugging and LIVING in the PRESENT MOMENT instead.
UPDATE: Since I wrote this post I decided to pop back on Instagram after being off for 6 weeks. The 6 weeks was AMAZING. But, I re-created my account (@mandy.tardif) because I was thinking it would be good for me to go back on but I deleted it AGAIN after a few days.
What has your experience been with social media?
Have you ever tried to get off social media and could not stay off for long?
Do you have a good relationship with social media?
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